The other day my husband sends me an email with
a link to Nas’ new single, Daughter’s.
He later follows up with this text:
“I can’t stop thinking about this song.
You gotta listen to it.”
As parents, we like to think that our kids can do
no wrong. If and when they do, we often
ask ourselves “where did I go wrong?” In
Nas’ new single, Daughter’s, he admits to being a bad parent.
In the track Nas talks about poor choices his
17 year-old daughter, Destiny, makes. He also mentions her promiscuity in his lyrics,
“she planted a box of condoms on her dresser
then she instagrammed it
point I realized I ain’t the strictest parent.
I’m too loose, I’m too
|Nas and a young Destiny, courtesy of sohh.com|
After hearing this song, I am left thinking of my own style of
parenting. I am told by some that I am a strict. But, I don't care. I wouldn't want Princess to go down the wrong path when she gets older. My hubby and I will do our best to prevent that from happening. But, the reality is that parenting isn’t easy. I'm sure there will be tough times. We all know that kids don’t come with
manuals. But, we do the best we can. In Nas' case, he became a father at a young age. While he admits to making wrong choices in life, he doesn't want other men to make the same mistakes.
A girl’s father is the first male figure in her
life, which sets the tone for the other men who come into her life. Women often end up with guys who are like
their dads. If there’s no positive male
influence in her life, she could end up looking for love in all the wrong
places. I wouldn’t want the same for my
daughter. Some people say you can’t plan
to have kids, but I beg to differ. A
situation like Nas and Destiny is one that I’ve always tried so hard to
avoid. I’m grateful that I have a
wonderful husband, who’s also a great father.
Unfortunately, some females are so lucky.
Some may feel that Nas’ is putting is entire
family on blast. But, I don’t see it
that way at all. I give props to him for admitting fault. He’s speaking out to
all men to be positive role models in the daughter’s lives. It’s obviously made an impact on my husband.
Having a great father-daughter relationship will
likely lead to girls making better decisions in life. I’ve seen too many go down the wrong path
because of the lack of a positive male figure in their lives. I almost became one of those girls. But, I’ll tell that story at a later
time. The message I wish to deliver
right now in this post is one to my daughter.
You have a great daddy, who loves you and will
always be there for you.
I also hope that men listen to this song, and feel inspired to make better decision for the sake of their daughters.
Check out Nas' single Daughters here. Would love to know your thoughts.
Labels: Family Times, Nas