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Does a Chris Brown & Rihanna Reconcilation Set a Bad Example?

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Monday, October 8, 2012

Does a Chris Brown & Rihanna Reconcilation Set a Bad Example?

Photo Courtesy NY Daily News

I don't usually judge other peoples relationships.  But when it comes to Chris Brown and Rihanna, I have throw in my two sense.  There have been numerous reports that the two may be back on again.  For those of you who may be new to this story, let me fill you in.  The R&B singers made headlines  as a result of a physical altercation that left Rihanna badly brused on the eve of the Grammys in 2009. According to a NY Daily News article, they were recently spotted sneaking off into NYC club bathroom together.  The songstress even admitted to still being in love with Brown in a recent Oprah interview.

As a girl who's been in her situation, I completely understand how hard it is to walk away.  But, I also feel that these love birds are going down the wrong path.  Many may disagree with me and that's ok.  However I strongly believe that as a woman, Rihanna is setting a bad example.  There are other young girls who may be going through similar situations and I feel that Rihanna is basically saying it's ok to go back to the guy who beat you.  Despite my distaste, I do feel sorry for the both of them.

Brown stated in his Larry King interview that he witnessed abuse inside the home as a child.  Rihanna also admitted to growing up seeing her mom being hit by her dad.  The one common denominator is that they both witnessed abuse as kids, and that's sad.  A healthy relationship begins at home and I strongly believe that it starts with the parents.

I am so thankful that my hubby and I have a healthy relationship.  I can't front though.  There are times when we argue.  But, it's normal to have disagreements.  The important thing is that we work through them for our family's sake.  Our daughter looks up to us.

We plan to have an open dialogue with her, especially when it comes to subject matters like this.  Princess has a while before she starts dating.  But when she does, we're gonna teach her that no one has the right to put their hands on her.  If they do, there will be consequences.

I was able to walk away.  I hope both Rihanna and Chris Brown can one day do the same.

Do you think a Chris Brown and Rhianna reconciliation sets a bad example for our youth? Do you think that she should just forgive and forget?

Weather Anchor Mama




At October 8, 2012 at 11:56 AM , Blogger YUMMommy said...

When it comes to celebrities, I don't believe in them being role models in terms of how to live our personal lives. I think that more parents need to take on that role and remind kids that celebrities are CAREER role models. Abuse is something men and women deal with and I always urge friends and family in abusive situations to seek help and get out.

However, I have had family and friends stay with a spouse that has abused them once and not have it happen again. They separated and sought counseling and were able to work things out. I don't condemn or look down on them for their choice. Some people can change and I hope that is the case for Chris Brown. I also hope that if Rihanna sees signs of him reverting she'll get out before things repeat themselves.

At October 8, 2012 at 12:37 PM , Blogger LilyBiscuit said...

I hope Rihanna stays safe. A violent temper can be very hard to control. I had an aunt who forgave the violence/abuse that happened over and over again until HE left her. My daughter is older than yours and I always teach non-violence and about loving respectful relationships.

At October 8, 2012 at 8:30 PM , Anonymous BKWilliams said...

Been there, done that, have the t-shirt....I was young and dumb just like Rihanna and believed the "I am sorry" over and over. Finally after black eyes, fat lips, bloody nose and just all kinds of mental abuse, I got my one year old son and ran. I just hope Rihanna sees the light before something really awful happens and it will.

To all you girls out there.....look at believed.....see the lie in the middle!

At October 14, 2012 at 8:11 AM , Blogger Unknown said...

It is very disturbing to find that most people (esp those who claim they are christians and not only believe in "forgiveness" but they also swear up and down they believe that they and others can be "changed" thru christ)do not believe that Chris Brown can be a better man who have learned from his mistakes and will never abuse anyone again. Did everyone forget that he did have a girlfriend after Rihanna that he obviously did not abuse? So was she stupid for dating him after knowing he was abusive? I don't think so. What are we to do? Write someone off forever for their violent mistakes. Come on let's give him a chance to truly redeem himself and continue to right his wrongs. Everyone deserves that. And as far as setting a bad example....each case is different and the person being abused has to know when it is time to get help and stay or get help and walk away.

At October 17, 2012 at 10:48 AM , Blogger Fire Wife said...

I do think it sets a bad example. I understand what "unknown" is saying, and was running thru those thoughts myself before I read their comment, but I think the difference is (and this is my humble opinion) not that she isn't forgiving, but that she should protect herself. You can forgive someone, and still not put yourself in that situation again. You can love someone, and still keep yourself at a distance, for your own protection. I'm not so much worried about the example Rihanna is setting (although as a celebrity it is something you should be conscious of), as much as I am concerned for her - not only for her physical safety, but for her emotional & mental well-being also. I find it very... concerning. And if it were a friend of mine, I would be hard pressed to hold an intervention of sorts.

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